Whatever You Focus on Owns You
Eric Stone, personal speaking coach, helps people have a good time speaking in public. The first level he helps master is anchoring yourself in the physical world and your own body. He says that if you can see the floor, the audience, and simply stand in front and breathe, you’re 80% there. Stone says you need to relax in your body before you can relax in your mind. The audience has access only to your physical being, not your mental experiences. Knowing what to expect when standing in front of an audience helps you prepare and focus correctly.
Comfort in Your Mind
The next level involves understanding what the mind is focusing on while speaking in public. “Public” speaking implies that the audience is passive and only the speaker is active. If you want an audience to feel good, feel good yourself, and the audience responds. Viewing the audience as a sponge helps you stand on your own and empowers you to let people feel your presence, like singers, comedians, and actors who know they are giving a show.
Stone says technical people tend to rely and place too much importance on mental aspects of speaking. Rapid and constantly changing feelings and thoughts are not reliable anchors. But the body, when relaxed, doesn’t change. Feeling the weight and unchanging pull of gravity helps relax you. Being at ease using all elements of body language: gesture, posture, tone of voice, is key to having a strong appetite to be seen and heard. Being able to say “it’s ok to see and hear me” is fundamental.
Owning the Space
More established speakers can gain comfort by utilizing the largest space possible, especially if they are shy. Understanding the concepts of personal space, professional space, social space, and public space, helps appropriately address each. When you finally get in touch with simple elements of physical life, you can free yourself to be in front of an audience effectively.
Debbie Sniderman is CEO of VI Ventures LLC, a technical consulting company.